If you are new, Life of Real Moms is a week-long, prompt based Photo Challenge on Instagram with the objective of building a community, and you can read all about how it started and how you can play along, by clicking here. As a part of this challenge, every week two Insta-Moms will bring to you a lovely theme-based photo contest with exciting prizes and fun games.
The next host for our ‘F.R.I.E.N.D.S’ themed challenge is…
Daksha is a mom to a soon-to-be 2-year-old tornado. She blogs at Nurturing Neev at her leisure about parenting topics such as breastfeeding, cloth-diapering, and more. Daksha is also a Registered Dietician with the IDA- Indian Dietetic Association and a Post-graduate in Clinical Nutrition and Diet Therapy. Nutriwise is her health care initiative to make wise food choices to balance physical, mental, and spiritual harmony to lead a better life. In her free time she likes to read books, listen to sufi music, and watch animated movies.
Let’s get to know Daksha little better.
HOW DID YOUR BLOGGING JOURNEY BEGIN?
Daksha says, “When Neev was about 2 months old, by chance I stumbled upon Tamanna’s account – talesbytammy. Through her I got to know about the concept of mom-bloggers and how there is such a huge mom community out there on social media who share their everyday lives. Around the same time Elina (Momfunda) delved into blogging and while just discussing some topic randomly one day she urged me to start writing. I didn’t pay much heed at first, but then I was knee deep in Post partum depression then and I saw this as an avenue to get out of it. That’s when I made up my mind to start putting my reading into words. That would take my mind off things and I would be in a better mental state. When Neev was 4 months old, I published my first blog on ‘Sleep Regression’ and received good response on it. That encouraged me to write more on the initial struggles of motherhood. And what could be better if some new mom benefitted from it?”
YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND HAVE AN 8-YEAR AGE GAP.
What would you say are the advantages and/or the not-so-great parts about it?
Daksha says, “Now that’s a lovely question! So let me give you a slight background to our story. We happen to be family friends, we are from the same town and our grannies used to watch movies together and our dads and aunts have played together in childhood. Basically Nohil’s family was a great support to ours during thick and thin.
We shifted to Mumbai the same year, me for college and Nohil for his job. We kept in touch through Orkut and not once did I inch away thinking about the age gap. It was only a matter of time before we thought of being best friends bonded for life.
Well, you can say I had a child marriage, I was married at 22 and he was 30 , so you can imagine. While we do have our share of differences, me being impulsive, he being more patient and grounded, the advantage of that is he handles the situation much, much better than me. He basically completes me wherever I lack. Also one thing that is very important to us is keeping all communications lines open. Being vocal about your feelings with your husband is very important and that’s what I have done despite him being older than me (almost a generation, you can say), but I have always treated him as my friend first and husband later.
Also another advantage is, as he’s seen more life, more ups and downs, he’s good in a crisis, his levels of patience, calmness, level headedness, and honesty are way more than mine. I sometimes feel I don’t give back much as much he gives me and am pampered to the core. (But who’s complaining anyway!)”
WHEN AND HOW DID YOU KNOW THAT YOU WANTED TO BE A NUTRITIONIST?
Daksha says, “I was in the first year of my Bachelors when I started scoring best marks in subjects like Food Science, Basics of Nutrition, and Biochemistry. That’s when I realised that I enjoyed studying them. I spent hours in the library (yes, I was the Hermione here!) reading up more on these topics, thereon I knew I just had to take these up as my majors in third year.
Also the fact that every food has an effect on your health intrigued me, making me realise that this profession has the efficacy to not just heal people but also prevent the onset of disease in the first place. That’s when I decided that, this is it for me. After Bachelor’s in Foods, Nutrition, and Dietetics, I went on to do my Post-graduation in Clinical Nutrition and Dietetics, which is a much more specialised branch of Nutrition. I got married right after my PG. I continued with 6 months of hospital training post my wedding and cleared the Registered Dietitian exam by the IDA in the first attempt which very few people clear. So that’s how I ended up being an Registered Dietitian (RD).”
YOU LIVE IN A JOINT FAMILY.
Does that help, given that you work from home?
Daksha says, “Yes, it definitely helps. I have a wonderful set of in-laws whom I’ve known all my life, so that ways I am lucky, you can say. But yes, they understand the value of my work and my profession, and do everything in their might to make it work for me. Be it looking after Neev while I work or helping me in the kitchen, it’s all sorted here at my home. In fact that’s another reason why I started Nutriwise – I realised I have a great support system, given the fact that I didn’t want to be away from Neev while at workplace, so I chose to be at home and rely on them thoroughly while I venture into this entrepreneurial realm.”
WHAT ARE THE CHALLENGES YOU’D SAY YOU HAVE FACED…
…in your work and personal life, since you became a mom?
Daksha says, “As I mentioned that I got married quite early on, so even though I had Neev after 3 years of marriage, I still felt like a baby myself holding a baby of her own. Though I had a lot of support throughout pregnancy and after too, I still underwent postpartum depression and had a hard time coming out of it.
Also another challenge I faced is managing time. Since I stay with my in-laws, I didn’t have the liberty of doing things at my own time. The lunch and dinner had to be served at the same time. Though my in-laws never complained of anything, but I did feel obligated to take care of them and their timings as well.
Not many challenges in the work life yet. Hope I don’t jinx it!”
WHAT DO YOU LOVE THE MOST ABOUT INSTAGRAM?
How has it impacted your life?
Daksha says, “The fact that you get to see a visual treat in the forms of pictures. Also I got to interact with so many lovely people. People are different, everyone has their own story. The fact that I love to read helped because I loved reading everyone’s life stories. And directly or indirectly you get to learn so much from them. I’ve learnt so many things on Instagram and I could never be more thankful.”
IS THERE ANYTHING YOU MISS FROM YOUR LIFE BEFORE YOU BECAME A MOM?
Daksha says, “Oh yes, I miss those reckless days when we planned something out of the blue and left immediately, impromptu dates, back-pack bike trips, late night movies, more of couple time and romance, and a lot more space on the double bed as well. Not saying that I don’t like my life now, it has never been better, having a baby is the most enriching experience one can ever have.”
HOW HAS CONNECTING WITH OTHER PEOPLE ON SOCIAL MEDIA…
…been for you (with other moms in particular)? Would you recommend it to others? Why (not)?
Daksha says, “I think it has been a blessing. It takes a village to raise a child, having a mom’s community you can rely on was like having a village around you. I made some very good friends online, few of which I haven’t even met till now, but they are just a call/message away. Psychologically, it makes such a big difference to a new mother to know that she is not alone in this. I would definitely recommend moms to be a part of a mom’s community and find your tribe who don’t judge you, because your friends who don’t have kids may not understand what you are going through, but your mommy friends will.”
IF MOTHERHOOD COULD BE PERFECT…
…what would your perfect mommy-life loook like?
Daksha says, “It is perfect right now. I have a husband who can do everything that I do (except breastfeed :P) and I have a super supportive mom-in-law, I have an online venture of my own, I have a blog which I write when I have something to share, and I have few but real good friends who have my back. What more could I ask for?”
ON ROUGH DAYS, WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING?
Daksha says, “My son’s sloppy wet kisses 🙂 and My husband’s reassurances that everything is going to be fine. Also I believe in this thing that when you believe in someone else reassurances, the rough patches fill up faster. So essentially, you have to ‘believe in the belief’. Law of Attraction you can say.
Also a good book and some sleep is comforting.”
IF SOMEONE WERE TO VISIT YOUR BLOG…
…for the first time, what would you like them to read first?
Daksha says, “I’d love it if you could start with these:
Thank you for taking the time out to do this. It’s so good to get to know you a little better! We are so happy to have you as a part of the LORM family.