If you are new, Life of Real Moms is a week-long, prompt based Photo Challenge on Instagram with the objective of building a community, and you can read all about how it started and how you can play along, by clicking here. As a part of this challenge, every week two Insta-Moms will bring to you a lovely theme-based photo contest with exciting prizes and fun games.
For the week of February 13-19, 2019, our theme is ‘Before & After.’
The first host for this challenge is…
Disha is mom to a threenager, Shanaaya, and also the co-founder of @amourlovefordesserts. She is an engineer by qualification and baker by passion.
She believes you never stop learning, you can never be right every time, and that most of the time all of us are just winging through different phases and situations in life! She shares snippets from her world in the tiny squares on instagram at @myfuchsiaworld.
Let’s get to know Disha a little better.
BEFORE YOU MET YOUR HUSBAND, WHAT WAS YOUR LIFE LIKE?
You were all ready to go abroad and your life did a U-turn. How did that happen?
Disha says, “I was quite the nerd before I met him! I’ve said this before, he’s my Ron and I’m his Hermoine! I am actually a Biotechnology Engineer by qualification. I was very sure I wanted to be that in 8th grade. I wanted to go abroad after 12th grade itself but my dad refused. I had to finish my graduation here first. While pursuing my engineering I had started studying for my GRE but soon after I started dating Rohhan. We knew each other since school and even though life took us separate ways, we kept in touch and somehow our friendship blossomed into love. A few other personal incidents and the fact that I didn’t want to deal with the long distance crap, I gave that plan up! And then after completing my degree, due to lack of opportunities in Mumbai in Biotechnology, I did a short stint in HR.”
HOW DID AMOUR HAPPEN?
When did you know you wanted to bake professionally?
Disha says, “While in HR, I didn’t love what I was doing. I started baking as a hobby at home and developed interest in it. The nerd in me was fascinated with how simple things like flour, butter, sugar, and eggs could turn into a spongy and delicious cake! I started experimenting in my mom’s kitchen. My Mom has always been a great baker and inspired me to bake more. I remember the first time I had to bake an eggless cake for a dinner we were going to and the texture came out weird. My mom quickly spread the weird cake sponge in a pan and laid ice cream scoops over it, sprinkled some crushed walnuts and topped it with chocolate sauce and made a whole new dessert out of a failed cake! I got asked a recipe for that dessert at the dinner party.
So after marriage, I quit my HR job and joined Sophia college for a Certificate course in Home Baking. And now I run a home baking business @amourlovefordesserts with my sister in law, and we only make eggless desserts!”
YOU ARE A SINDHI MARRIED INTO A GUJARATI FAMILY.
How easy or difficult was the transition?
Disha says, “The last thing I preplanned in my life was being an Engineer. Look how that turned out! Since then, I have always been the kind of person who crosses the bridge when it comes. I don’t ponder about probable situations cause that can lead to too much stress. I enjoyed the whole Sindhi-Gujarati wedding thoroughly! I was smiling throughout the ceremonies and by the end of the Reception my cheeks hurt! But, not even for a moment did I feel, “Oh my God! 15 people in the same house! Or Gujarati family!”
It took me a few weeks to adjust ‘coz it is a big culture change but it wasn’t difficult at all. Maybe that was because it’s a family full of warm fuzzy people. I give full credit for this to my parents-in-law, all 3 pairs! My mom-in-law has always treated me like her daughter. In fact, my mom and mom-in-law have become great friends and speak more often than I speak to my own mom sometimes!”
WHAT DROVE YOU TO DOCUMENT YOUR LIFE ON INSTAGRAM?
What was your primary focus? Only the motherhood part of your life or anything else too?
Disha says, “Life of Real Moms did! Or We are Real Moms, at that time. I stumbled upon Nikita’s profile through Katerina’s profile while scrolling through instagram randomly and I had no idea this mom bloggers’ community existed. I was having sleep isssues with Shanaaya at that time and the first prompt of the challenge that month was “Sleep” and my fingers just started typing! I didn’t know I could write. Since then, I have been documenting my life as a mom, one square at a time. I want to be more consistent and also share baking tips and styling tips apart from Shanaaya’s progress.”
HOW HAS LIFE BEEN AFTER YOU HAD SHANAAYA?
How did the joint-family-dynamic play a role in it?
Disha says, “Mom life has its ups and downs! Sometimes you feel lucky and blessed and sometimes you are lonely and down in the dumps! But yes, having a big family means a huge support system. So many people to share your feelings with and to share responsibilities with! 😉
It has its cons too. It is difficult to discipline your child with many people around and it is also difficult to maintain a consistent schedule with her. But the advantages are more, according to me, and the love she gets from everyone is a blessing on its own!”
WHAT IS THE HARDEST THING ABOUT BEING A MOM. . .
…the biggest challenge according to you? How do you deal with it?
Disha says, “Believing in you that you can raise a human and be responsible for a life is the hardest. People talk a lot once they come to know you’re going to become a mom and they want to give their opinions everywhere! It can sometimes make you question yourself about the decisions you make or the path you’re taking. It is not easy! You need to have confidence in your ways and have a sense of right and wrong. You can wing the rest! At least, that’s what I’m doing.”
HOW HAS CONNECTING WITH PEOPLE ON SOCIAL MEDIA. . .
…been for you (with other moms in particular)? Would you recommend it to others? Why? Or why not?
Disha says, “It has been great! All the mom bloggers out there are sharing stories, tips and hacks and it’s all so helpful! Being a new mom is overwhelming but if you have someone with you, even virtually, going through the same phase as you, it connects you and discussing about life just makes the emotional load lighter! I would totally recommend it to others. But I would warn them, that not all is real in the social media world so to not compare lives and situations with anyone else.”
WHAT’S YOUR BIGGEST CHALLENGE ON SOCIAL MEDIA?
Disha says, “The number game is difficult! I didn’t start microblogging to be part of the number game. I started truly to document and share. An increase in followers motivates you to write more. And of course collaborating with brands is fun too, but for that you need numbers. It’s a challenge when you want to be organic but everyone around is playing the follow unfollow game!”
IF MOTHERHOOD COULD BE PERFECT. . .
…what would your perfect mommy-life look like?
Disha says, “I genuinely love my mommy life and I wouldn’t change a thing about it. I would like to change certain other aspects of my life but not the mommy life at all!”
ON ROUGH DAYS, WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING?
Disha says, “Depending on what is making my life rough on that day it could be anything from this list: My perfect cup of coffee, a hug from Rohhan, morning chat with my sister-in-law – Ritu, a chat with my best friend – Maria, or a kiss from Shanaaya!”
Thank you for taking the time out to do this. It’s so good to get to know you a little better! We are so happy to have you as a part of the LORM family.
Don’t forget to check out and follow Disha on Instagram.